They knew how to do screen embroidery, sew by machine, weave bone lace, wash and iron, make artificial flowers and fancy candy, and write engagement announcements. (31)
Any man will be happy to be with them because they´ve been raised to suffer. (31)
Raised to be lady-like and delicate. Dependant on another man
From his father he learned at a very early age the manipulation of firearms, his love for horses, and the mastery of high-flying birds of prey. (7)
He also learned the good arts of valor and prudence. (7)
Heirs to the family name
Raised to be strong and independent. Unlike women, their values and skills don't focus on marriage.
She devoted herself with such a spirit of sacrifice to the care of her husband and the rearing of her children that at times one forgot she still existed. (31)
On her first morning as a newlywed she could display open under the sun in the courtyard of her house the linen sheet with the stain of honor. (38)
Expected to be loyal, pure, and completely submissive to the needs of the husband.
She'd been seduced by Ibrahim Nasar in the fullness of her adolescence. She'd made love to him in secret for several years.(9)
Bayardo San Román hadn't even tried to court her, but had bewitched the family with his charm. (34)
I've been going from town to town looking for someone to marry. (26)
Men are respected if they carry themselves with pride. They are a true "macho" if they know what they want and take what they want.
No one would have thought, nor did anyone say, that Angela Vicario wasn't a virgin. (37)
Yet it was difficult for the men who married the two eldest to break the circle, because they always went together everywhere, and they organized dances for women only and were predisposed to find hidden intentions in the designs of men. (32)
She looked like a nun. (31)
Women's actions where constantly being watched and judged by the town folk. If they strayed away from the expectations for their role the people began to get suspicious.
"We killed him openly, " Pedro Vicario said. "It was a matter of honor." (49)
They presented themselves together for military service at the age of twenty, and Pablo Vicario was excused in order to take care of the family. (59)
The public spree broke up into fragments at around midnight...Santiago Nasar and I, with my brother Luis Enrique and Cristo Bedoya, went to Maria Alejandrina Cervantes's house of mercies. (45)
While women are forced to uphold an image of purity, men are free to sleep around, party, and drink to show off their machismo. They, on the other hand, are forced to uphold an image of honor, bravery, and manliness.
I've been going from town to town looking for someone to marry. I cannot stand another day under the shadow of my father who constantly bashes me for not being a "man". I will prove to him that I can start a family and make a name for myself. I'll show him how much of a real man I am. Angela Vicario is one of the prettiest women in this town. Charming her family in order to win her hand in marriage will be an easy task.
"Love can be learned too." says my mother. Yet, I doubt I'll ever be able to love a man as prideful and machista as Bayardo San Román. My only hope is that God can give me enough strength so that I can take my own life before entering a marriage that I know is doomed from the start. I am not a virgin, and I can only imagine the drama this will cause and the dishonor I will bring to my family.