The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness.
The questions were divided into three sets, each set increasingly personal. The pair would put in a room, sitting across from each other, in close proximity. After they both shared their answers to each question, they'd stare into each other's eyes.
To make two people fall in love by asking each person 36 questions.
What is love?
The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. Eros represents the idea of passion and desire.
The second type of love is philia, or friendship. The ancient Greeks valued philia far above eros because it was considered a love between equals.
Although storge closely resembles philia in that it is a love without physical attraction, storge is primarily to do with kinship and familiarity. Storge is a natural form of affection that often flows between parents and their children, and children for their parents.
Although ludus has a bit of the erotic eros in it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love, for example, the affection between young lovers.
Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there is an imbalance between eros and ludus.
Pragma is a love that has aged, matured and developed over time. It is beyond the physical, it has transcended the casual, and it is a unique harmony that has formed over time.
The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. This form of self-love is not the unhealthy vanity and self-obsession that is focused on personal fame, gain and fortune as is the case with Narcissism -- Philautia
The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is agape, or selfless unconditional love.
I interviewed each participant, asking them questions about their upbringing, religion, and past relationships
- 36 questions
- 3 Sets
- Staring - 4 minutes